Getting Through The Holidays

Posted on December 5, 2023 by Amanda Gendron-Roese under Holidays
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The holidays are meant to be a time of joy, celebration, and togetherness. For many people, it can also be a time of grief and mourning.   Particularly if you have lost a loved one. Dealing with death during the holidays can be especially challenging.  It can bring up painful memories and emotions that can be difficult to process.

One way to cope with loss during the holidays is to focus on finding ways to honor and remember the person who has passed away. This might include lighting a candle in their memory, creating a special ornament or decoration, or volunteering in their honor. It’s also important to take care of yourself during this time.  Whether that means seeking support from friends and family, talking to a therapist, or engaging in self-care activities.  Anything that helps you feel grounded and centered.

Ultimately, the holidays and death are two things that are inevitably intertwined for many people. While it can be difficult to navigate this intersection of grief and celebration, it’s important to know that you are not alone.  There are resources available to help you through this difficult time.



Losing a loved one can be one of the most challenging and painful experiences in life. However, it’s essential to remember and honor our loved ones, even after they’re gone. Memories of those we have lost can bring comfort and remind us of the love and connection we shared with them. Remembering our loved ones can also help us cope with grief and loss.  Allowing us to process our emotions and move forward with our lives. Additionally, honoring our loved ones can help keep their legacy alive.  It can ensure that their impact on our lives and the world is never forgotten. Whether we choose to celebrate their life through traditions, memorials, or simply by keeping their memory close to our hearts, remembering our loved ones is an important and meaningful part of healing and growth.


Holidays can be a challenging time for those who have lost someone they love. If you are in this situation, there are ways to honor your loved one during the holidays.  Honoring your loved one helps to keep their memory alive.

One way to do this is to create a special holiday tradition in honor of your loved one. This can be something simple.  Such as lighting a candle in their memory or placing a special ornament on the tree. You could also consider making a donation to a charity that was important to them.  Or even volunteering your time to a cause they cared about.

Another way to honor your loved one is to share stories and memories about them with family and friends. This can be done during a special meal or gathering.  Or by creating a memory book or photo album that you can look through together.

It’s also important to take care of yourself during the holidays, especially if you are grieving. This may mean setting boundaries with family and friends. It could be taking time for yourself to reflect and remember your loved one.

Remember that everyone grieves differently.  It’s okay to feel a range of emotions during the holidays. By honoring your loved one in your own way, you can find comfort and peace during this difficult time.

Why Light a Candle?

Lighting candles during the holidays is a common tradition that dates back to ancient times. Candles have long been associated with bringing warmth, comfort, and light to dark and cold winter nights. In many cultures, candles are also seen as a symbol of hope, faith, and remembrance.

For some people, lighting candles during the holidays is a way to honor and remember loved ones who have passed away. By lighting a candle in memory of someone they love, they are able to feel a connection to that person and keep their memory alive. Candles can also serve as a source of comfort during difficult times.  It can remind us that even in the darkest of moments, there is still light to be found.

In addition to their symbolic meaning, candles also add to the festive ambiance of the holiday season. They create a warm and cozy atmosphere.  It can make our homes feel more inviting and welcoming. Whether we are gathered with family and friends, or simply enjoying a quiet evening at home, candles help to set the mood and create a sense of peace and tranquility.

Overall, lighting candles during the holidays is a beautiful tradition that has been passed down through generations. It serves as a reminder of the true spirit of the holiday season.  Love, hope, and connection.

Dedicating an Ornament:

Putting an ornament on a Christmas tree in honor of a loved one is a heartfelt way of keeping their memory alive during the holiday season. It’s a tradition that has been practiced for generations.  It can help people cope with the loss of someone they cared for deeply. The ornament can be something that was special to the person who has passed away, or it can be something that represents their personality or interests.

For many, decorating the tree with these special ornaments is a way of including their loved one in the holiday festivities. It’s a way of acknowledging that they are still an important part of their life, even though they are no longer physically present. This act of remembrance can bring comfort and a sense of closeness during what can be a difficult time of year.

In addition, it’s a way to honor the memory of those who have passed on and to celebrate the joy they brought to our lives. It’s a reminder that even though they may no longer be with us, their spirit lives on in the memories we hold dear. And as we gather around the tree with family and friends, we can share stories and memories of our loved ones, keeping their presence alive in our hearts and minds.

How Does Volunteering Help with the Holiday?

People volunteer during the holidays in honor of their loved ones for various reasons. One of the primary reasons is to keep the memory of their loved ones alive. Volunteering is a way to honor their legacy and continue their good work. It is also a way to cope with the loss of a loved one and find meaning in their passing. Additionally, volunteering during the holidays can help people feel connected to their community and spread joy during a time that can be difficult for many. It is a way to give back and make a positive impact on the world, all while honoring the memory of someone special. Overall, volunteering during the holidays in honor of a loved one is a beautiful way to keep their spirit alive and make a difference in the world.

It’s essential to prioritize your mental and physical wellbeing, during the holiday season, especially if you are experiencing grief. Please know that Gendron Funeral & Cremation Services Inc. is here to support you during this challenging period. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your loved ones throughout the holiday season.

Don’t hesitate to check out our Free Grief Website.  You can virtually attend grief meetings and events.  There are hundreds of grief resources available to you.

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